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Not just a critique of marriage but one of the best books EVER on romantic relationships and how they really work. What do people want from love? How do they think marriage will help them, and what does it really give them?
Marriage is all about love, right? Actually, it’s more about money. Behind the romantic language, marriage is primarily a financial agreement merging the assets and liabilities of two individuals into a single corporate entity. After your wedding, the money you earn and debts you incur are no longer legally yours; they belong to the marital “community”—a common pot that both of you contribute to and draw from. It’s a lot like Communism an idealistic sharing of resources and risks supposedly for the common good.
What could go wrong with this plan? Pretty much the same things that brought down political Communism in the late 20th Century It slows growth, suppresses initiative, dilutes responsibility and mires decisions in bureaucracy. Healthy relationships need clear boundaries, and marriage erases too many of them at once.
Marriage was designed for medieval times. Back then, life was hard and short; most marriages were arranged, and a woman was essentially the property of her husband. Marriage was a sort of licensing system for sex and childbirth. Once the relationship was officially approved and the religious ceremony concluded, the couple's overriding goal was to produce as many children as possible, knowing that many would die.
Times have changed. Birth control, longer lifespans, sexual freedom and women’s rights have rewritten the rules of matrimony. Under the laws of most Western countries, marriage is no longer a sex license or child-rearing contract, only a contract to merge your financial resources. “It’s only money,” couples may say, but Glenn Campbell argues that love and money are separate issues that should be kept that way.
In modern Western society, unmarried people can legally have sex, live together, raise children, buy property together and do nearly everything else associated with a committed relationship, so why do they need to marry at all? What are you really getting when you walk down the aisle? Is marriage merely a public announcement to make your relationship “official,” or does it fundamentally change the relationship?
With simple, powerful and accessible arguments, The Case Against Marriage explains why, if you truly love someone, marriage may not be the wisest way to show it.
CHAPTERS
Preface — Introduction — What is Marriage? — Pair Bonding [Read the first 4 chapters for free on ] — Sex and Intimacy — Loneliness and Engulfment — Love is not Charity — The Dilemma of Beauty — The Problems of Communism — The Dark Star Duet — A Bureaucracy of Two — Commercial Delusions — Wedding Pornography — Charles' and Diana's Wedding Disaster — Commitment and Negotiation — Love and Enabling — Love Can't Change Personality — The Power of Money — The Credit Card of Life — Children — Advisors and Sycophants — The Evolution of Needs — The Seduction of Novelty — The Investment Effect — Back to the Sixties — When Love Ends but the Marriage Doesn't — Trapped in their Own Musuem — Problems of Living — Lifelong Learning — Personal Development — Social Pressure — Personal Economies — The Meaning of Life — Death Benefits — Ban Gaɣ Marriage! (Heterosexual Marriage, too!) — Addendum The Istanbul Interview — Addendum 100 Tweets on Marriage — Acknowledgements
More information at CaseAgainstMarriage.com
The Case Against Marriage What You're Really Getting What You've Got To Lose edition by Glenn Campbell Health Fitness Dieting eBooks
This book is absolutely brilliant! I couldn't put it down. In the first chapter, after the introduction, "What is Marriage?" was worth the cost of the book alone. No one really asks him or herself this question. This is what Glenn Campbell has to say, which I think is pure genius: "Under the law, marriage is quite simple: It is an economic contract to share future income and liabilities. You can layer on top of it whatever emotional meaning you want, but what the law sees is primarily a merging of your economic activity."What we don't think about beyond the intoxicating euphoria of romance and falling in love is that marriage is a serious compromise of economic and personal freedom, and there is no way we can know for sure after we say, "I do" that we will want this for the "rest of our life" with this person. There is no way to know ahead of time. It is a crap shoot whether you want to accept this reality or not. And if we later
discover after marriage that this compromise of economic and personal freedom is not worth it, it can become now way too costly to leave through divorce, so it becomes like the old blues song, "It's Cheaper to Keeper."
You CAN marry blindly out of pure love and romance and the beauty of the wedding ceremony, but most of the things you THINK you're going to get from a marriage: love, sex, companionship CAN be obtained WITHOUT marrying. (If children are not your main objective for marrying, then you need to ask yourself, what are you really bargaining for?) Your money upon marrying, will no longer be your own, nor will your personal freedom.
This book will make you THINK beyond the temporary insanity of love and romance, which comes and goes. Marrying without giving your motives real thought, can be too late before being able to get out of an economic and personal prison without costing you everything you have worked for in life. Buy this book BEFORE you marry the first time, and surely before you marry again, and THEN make your decision. It is the best premarital counseling you can buy for $15.
If marry you must, this book unwittingly makes a strong case for a prenuptial contract, no matter how much "in love" you think you are! Traditional marriage without a prenup is tantamount to doing somersaults without a net, skydiving without a parachute, or working S.W.A.T. without a bullet-proof vest. It's your call.
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This is a must read for you if you're contemplating marriage. If you're already married or divorced you'll be nodding your head in agreement. Finally somebody has the courage, wisdom and clarity to tell the truth about marriage. If you truly love someone, getting married is probably the worst relationship decision you can make. Many divorced couples say their relationship began to fall apart once they got engaged, and it only got worse after the wedding. Glenn's explanation as to why this happens makes so much sense. He is an expert on the inner workings of relationships.The Case Against Marriage is hands down the best book on relationships I've ever read. His Kilroy Kafe essays are also fantastic - hilarious and thought provoking. Thanks Glenn!
What a fascinating, unique and well argued book! Campbell provides some really appealing arguments AGAINST getting married. While in some ways he does tend to say the same thing in many different ways, I'm so glad I read this book (and added it to Goodreads!) If you're considering getting married (like I am ... or was), READ THIS BOOK. If you want to make an intelligent decision and look at a variety of perspectives, this book is gold.
Just read it. OK.
This book has many great points to contemplate and I think it should be required reading before entering into a marriage. Being married does not solidify your love with someone, it just legally binds you to them. I was once married for thirteen years, so I’ve been there, done that.
I’m now currently in a five year relationship with no intention of ever marrying again. Happily cohabiting knowing we both want to be here and if the relationship runs its course, no messy legal battles if we choose to ever part ways.
This is the most clear, rational, and engaging exposé of marriage I've ever read. I dare say, reading this book was a life-changing and illuminating experience for me. Not only did it challenge everything I thought about marriage and romance, "The Case Against Marriage" addressed even more fundamental questions of meaning and choice in life. The 30+ chapters cover a wide range of philosophical, psychological, economical, and social aspects surrounding marriage as an institution and as a social ideal. The chapters are succinct and well reasoned and also quite entertaining. The book didn't take long to read, but it packed a powerful punch for such a little book!
Additional Reading
To learn more about the history and folklore behind marriage, I recommend "Marriage, A History How Love Conquered Marriage" by Stephanie Coontz (2005).
As a marriage counselor, I disagreed with some of Campbell's presuppositions; however, this is a thought-provoking, intelligent piece of work. While the author's case is against marriage, the points he makes are useful even for those who do choose to walk down the aisle thoughts on the the financial aspects of marriage, the ideals of happiness and romance, what to look for in a relationship, good communication and healthy fighting, the wedding, and the importance of sex. Campbell has a good understanding many psychological concepts like attachment, pair bonding, and the neurological rewards of sex. My one criticism was that the writing could have been more concise. I enjoyed how Campbell challenges our cultural norm. For that reason alone, you should read this book.
This book is absolutely brilliant! I couldn't put it down. In the first chapter, after the introduction, "What is Marriage?" was worth the cost of the book alone. No one really asks him or herself this question. This is what Glenn Campbell has to say, which I think is pure genius "Under the law, marriage is quite simple It is an economic contract to share future income and liabilities. You can layer on top of it whatever emotional meaning you want, but what the law sees is primarily a merging of your economic activity."
What we don't think about beyond the intoxicating euphoria of romance and falling in love is that marriage is a serious compromise of economic and personal freedom, and there is no way we can know for sure after we say, "I do" that we will want this for the "rest of our life" with this person. There is no way to know ahead of time. It is a crap shoot whether you want to accept this reality or not. And if we later
discover after marriage that this compromise of economic and personal freedom is not worth it, it can become now way too costly to leave through divorce, so it becomes like the old blues song, "It's Cheaper to Keeper."
You CAN marry blindly out of pure love and romance and the beauty of the wedding ceremony, but most of the things you THINK you're going to get from a marriage love, sex, companionship CAN be obtained WITHOUT marrying. (If children are not your main objective for marrying, then you need to ask yourself, what are you really bargaining for?) Your money upon marrying, will no longer be your own, nor will your personal freedom.
This book will make you THINK beyond the temporary insanity of love and romance, which comes and goes. Marrying without giving your motives real thought, can be too late before being able to get out of an economic and personal prison without costing you everything you have worked for in life. Buy this book BEFORE you marry the first time, and surely before you marry again, and THEN make your decision. It is the best premarital counseling you can buy for $15.
If marry you must, this book unwittingly makes a strong case for a prenuptial contract, no matter how much "in love" you think you are! Traditional marriage without a prenup is tantamount to doing somersaults without a net, skydiving without a parachute, or working S.W.A.T. without a bullet-proof vest. It's your call.
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